Hope After Divorce

This is the final and probably most important part of Methodist Pastor Steve Bullmer’s July sermon on marriage and divorce.

It contains an interpretation of the woman at the well story in the Book of John which was a revelation to me.

To review, the first installment explained the difference between the two different words translated “divorce” in our Bibles. The second article explains the minister’s advice to those who have never been married. The third is to those in “good” marriages. Yesterday’s was aimed at those whose spouses have left them.

Here’s today’s–on after you get divorced:

One final sermon. There is a story in Scripture where Jesus ministers to a divorced person; the fourth chapter of John. He sends his disciples into town to prepare a meal.

Jesus is waiting for someone; and then she shows up.

They talk for awhile, and then Jesus offers her living water. She says,

“I would love some of that water.”

He says,

“Great, go back into town and get your husband.”

“I don’t have a husband.”

Jesus says,

“I know that. You’ve been married and divorced five times, and the guy you’re presently living with is not your husband.”

What do you think Jesus is going to say to her next?

“You stupid, sinful wretch.

“I can’t believe you!

“You’ve been married and divorced five times!

“Don’t you get it?

“Is there something psychologically wrong with you?

“Do you not understand what I said in the Sermon on the Mount that if you do this you’re a bad person?

“Don’t you know that God hates divorce? Get out of my sight!”

Do you think that’s what he says?

Maybe you do, because people who claim to be representing Jesus and speaking for God have said those things to you.

He says none of that.

He reveals to her that he’s the Messiah.

And he demonstrates his love to her.

And when she comes to believe in him he makes her the first woman preacher in the Bible and sends her back to town where she tells as many people as will listen that she has met the Savior.

And the Bible says,

“And many came to believe because of her testimony.”

That’s the power of Jesus’ love to divorced people.

I put this story next to Jesus’ teaching on divorce, and you know what I see?

I see grace.

Grace. Grace for all. Help for life’s struggles.

All right, here’s the word, because I don’t want you to miss it:

If you’ve never been married and you want to get married someday, if you’re single and you want to get married again, ban the word “divorce” from your vocabulary.

Links to my articles about the sermons (containing much about his divorce) in which Pastor Bullmer used to introduce himself to the First United Methodist Church of Crystal Lake last summer follow:

One Life to Live – The Soap Opera Life of Steve Bullmer, New Methodist Minister in Crystal Lake

General Hospital – The Soap Opera Life of Steve Bullmer, New Methodist Church Minister in Crystal Lake

The Bold and the Beautiful – The Soap Opera Life of Steve Bullmer, New Methodist Minister in Crystal Lake

Guiding Life – The Soap Opera Life of Steve Bullmer, New Methodist Minister in Crystal Lake

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Services at the First United Methodist Church (at the corner of West Crystal Lake Avenue and Dole, both of which intersect with Route 14 at a stop light) are 5 PM on Saturday and 8 AM, 9:30 AM and 11 AM. The 9:30 service is the most traditional. The 11 o’clock one is the most contemporary.  That’s when Pastor Steve takes off his coat.

The painting of Jesus with the woman at the well was found in Rome’s Catacombs. I found it here.

Other articles in the series can be found in the links below:

What Does the Bible Say About Divorce? Defining “Divorce”

If You Haven’t Been Married

Temptations During a “Good” Marriage

When Your Spouse Has Left You


Hope After Divorce — 1 Comment

  1. Great articles on Divorce but really they speak to me as a married person committed to seeing my marriage thru "Til death do us part."

    We are only 8 years in but I can see how it is easy to lose hope…how easy it is to give up on each other… on the one you love.

    However, I love the hope that this series has inspired in me and hopefully others.

    Especially this article where you ask me to wipe "divorce" from my vocabulary. Powerful.

    I will do that.


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